As Fathers day approaches there are all these ads full of gifts and activities on how children and their fathers can share and mark the day.
It is not all rosy fun and festivities around the world for all, as some fathers will not spend the time or receive gifts from their children because, you decided to walk away and not look back, or you will be away chasing that extra income or in your home Fathers day is just another day…nothing special.
In your defence you will justify your absence with the fact that I had to move on from the gold digger…meaning your #babymama…and so on.
For some fathers he says well I provide for my children and it needs me to work hard and make a living so let their mother stay at home and do the heavy lifting alone.8
Another father says I love my child and that is how I was brought up…as they throw punches in the name of discipline.
Then we have the fathers who love giving advice even if it is shrouded in negativity and disapprovals because they know best and their word is final…with no care of the emotional scars.
Fast forward if you live to be an old man will you be able to sit back and enjoy your family because you were a great dad? Will your legacy live on through your children because of the morals and values you instilled in them? Or will your twilight years be full of regret and loneliness because those who should be around you are broken and not able to be of use?
I end by asking what does fatherhood mean to you and are you a ‘Present’ father.
Fatherhood254 would love to hear from you about your Fatherhood experiences. Feel free to share or ask questions or nominate a ‘Present Father’. Remember we are not here to break but build a Fatherhood community as we support each other.
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I have always believed in the quote, “anyone can be a father but it takes a real man to be a dad” as someone who’s dad left at the age of 4 I was brought up by my step dad who has always warranted the title of dad. I have now been reunited with my father and we are still forming our bound again. I really related to your piece! #ablogginggoodtime
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Hello @powerporter thank you for taking time to read my post and I agree with you that your stepdad is #stilladad as he steppedup when your father was away. It is also positive that you are now making an effort to recconect with your father and that you shared it with us. This is what @Fatherhood254 advocates for…and it is never too late to be ‘Present Dad”
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As someone who grew up without a father, my parents seperated just after I was born, my idea of a father is obviously a bit different to some. My mum was both, and she did an amazing job. #ablogginggoodtime
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Thank you for sharing your experience and it is my hope fathers reading this will take note of your sentiments…and those mums out there pulling double duty we celebrate them…just like your mum
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This touched a nerve for me on two fronts. As an EXPAT I do not get to spend father’s day with my father and haven’t for the last 11 years… I always feel guilt on Father’s day. It is important to recognise also that not everyone has an excellent relationship with their father… Some relationships are complex and difficult! Such a thought provoking post and I loved it. Thank you for linking up to #ablogginggoodtime 🎉
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Agree fathers need to be more active. Although it’s tough for a lot of families financially for the dad to share parenting at home more, the dad can always play a big role in his kid’s lives when he is at home.
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I agree Dave fatherhood is more than just financials…being at home helping out with chores and babysitting duties is a huge role too and important. Thank you for commenting.
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It’s a tricky one. I think that both Father’s Day and Mother’s Day are very commercial. Whilst I have to admit that gifts are lovely, that’s not the be all and end all. We can’t always be together on special occasions, so everyday should be made special by being full of love. It’s the little things that matter the most. Thank you for linking up to the #DreamTeam
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You have raised an important point that we cannot always be together on special days so I agree making every day count and it is not about gifts but quality time spent together doing normal everyday things. Thanks for stopping by.
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The one thing I remind parents whether dads or moms is that your kid will not remember all the gifts and toys you bought them, but the times you spent together. Being present and attentive is way more important for them than the money.
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